m0xEE @m0xee@librem.one

@unspeaker
> 11/10 manipulation, contagious, too
Exactly! Another disappointment of mine is that manipulation also doesn't always come out of intent — people just get used to that, someone did it to them and they start reproducing it faithfully!
You can't even "relax" around these people and act in good faith like it would be comfortable to you — because they are going to twist that anyway, if you come up with an attempt to fix that, it turns into another device they use to manipulate you 😩

@unspeaker
Yes, more or less the same here — this is where the drive for being liked by others stems from. But in the end, even you succeed at that — the prize only makes you feel more hollow, because you end up being surrounded by the wrong people, having to do things that you might not like instead of things you enjoy, very unfulfilling!
Well, if we come from the same mess and to more or less the same conclusions, at least — maybe we aren't wrong this time.

@unspeaker
Yeah, it's like that — it's hard to grasp for those of us who think on more abstract levels and in the longer term, but most people — they function on more… vegetative level if I might say so.
I mentioned intent — because it's one of the greatest disappointment for me personally: most of the time there is no intent, you do something and expect other person to think why you did that, but they only go for the most immediate response.

@unspeaker
NP
Sorry for resorting to giving advice instead of just listening, but… Damn, that's what people do — we have to accept ourselves for who we are, someone's got to do it 🤣

@unspeaker
Damn, I still ended up giving unsolicited advice 😅, but I think I know what you're talking about and I think this has happened to me more times than I wish it had. True — acting more bold and establishing where you want to be with people early on might make some of them not like you, but in the long run it's a better strategy than getting along with the wrong people, ultimately losing motivation for it and sliding into a "bad state" of sorts.

@unspeaker
It's not like people would become more understanding any time soon, so you have to state explicitly what you do not like. Of course fixing it at a later stage when they already got the wrong idea that you find it acceptable ain't easy — but not impossible and it's still better course of action than blaming yourself in retrospective for what you could've done. And it's better than relying on substance of any sort for short-term relief. Little-by-little it's possible to fix anything.

@unspeaker
It's not like they are doing it out of intentional malice — they are just "acting naturally". If you play along with it in order to work something out in the short term, expect them to understand that you didn't like it, but let it slide, you'd be gravely disappointed later when they get used to it and start doing it more and more often.
Just like on personal level you have to establish personal space, you have to watch you work relationships to not get out of hand.

@alex_mastodon
Yeah, precisely — it's not like politicians deserve being cut some slack, especially considering that they or their successors seem to keep doing the same things.
Both with Russia and with renewable energy, acting indecisively and going for more obvious short term solutions does not help avoid the big problem in the future, but seems to make consequences more catastrophic and harder to deal with at a later stage. Sadly, political will is something I still do not see 😩

@kravietz

@kaia
Putting Mini Cooper market share in grave danger by changing just one letter?

@unspeaker
I see what you're doing there — you're covertly inviting unsolicited advice with a post criticising giving unsolicited advice 😏

(I hope this joke isn't too much, but if it is — sorry 😅)

@alex_mastodon
Of course, being Russian pinning it on him alone would be just dishonest — we have failed spectacularly with Pooteen. But it's a fact: at the time neither US, nor European politicians minded Pooteen much. However neither self-reproachment, nor pointing fingers helps understand the problem and fix things — that is what we should really be doing 😩
@kravietz

@alex_mastodon
That is interesting — and I'm certain that there are lots of things about German politics that I just don't understand not being German. To the outsider growing economic ties with a country with vast resources, but taking a clear undemocratic turn domestically and doing questionable (to put it mild) things internationally, doesn't look reasonable.
@kravietz

@captainepoch @Mitsu @newt
Maybe a viable choice — because girls don't usually daily drive PMOS and using Android is just weird, so iOS is indeed what they use and you can always borrow an
old device 🤷

@captainepoch @Mitsu @newt
Don't worry, it's just a non-sequitur joke. Then I was discussing iOS development without owning a Mac with someone one Fedi, that's exactly what I said — you can code and build in a VM, but you probably won't get away with testing in an emulator, and he told me he could use his sister's old iPhone 😂

@guysoft @captainepoch @newt
Emulating an ARM system would certainly not be viable, but why bother — I think they still release binaries of Xcode and friends for Intel Macs.
Not without some hacks, but booting Mac OS X (or whatever they call it now) for Intel inside a VM should not be an issue.
At some point they will stop though and start only releasing binaries of dev tools for ARM, then it would be a problem.

@metallcorn
Старость не радость, кхе-кхе! Где там мои таблетки? надо ещё песок, который из меня сыпется собрать в совочек 👴
Поздравляю!

@newt @captainepoch
People who don't buy a Mac end up buying an old ThinkPad and installing Gentoo on it, which is arguably even worse 😖

@Mitsu @captainepoch @newt
By using their sister's old iPhone of course 🤭

@nickapos @bobdobberson
AFAIK there used to be an option to host your own Signal server and talk to others from it, but there no longer is.
Your options are XMPP and Matrix — the former is cheaper on the resources and by extension cheaper hosting, the later is more modern, has more streamlined onboarding — which your loved ones would probably appreciate, but your hosting bill might go high with time.