@hj @kaia
I have a friend who is TERF and as far as I understand, they aren't uncomfortable about trans person using the toilet, they mostly just don't care, but that this approach would be exploited by genuine perverts (maybe not the correct term, but let's go with it), to enter women toilets. No one expects this to be widespread even, but there is a possibility and as it always was, people want to be rather safe than sorry.
@kaia @hj
Yes, as always, this isn't a question of clear right or wrong, rather a set of questions and each of them should be addressed individually. Their concern seems quite genuine to me, addressing it with "Trust me, it just won't happen 😏" and labelling them as trans-hating to apply greater pressure, doesn't feel right.