> trust Apple far more than the alternative Google
I have no advice on that point, both are bad 🙂
Regarding Apple: https://www.theguardian.com/world/2022/nov/11/apple-limits-iphone-filesharing-feature-used-by-protesters-in-china
Apple has power to do whatever they want. They did that to users in China, they can do bad things to you as well.
See also https://stallman.org/apple.html
If the apps you mention are truly mandatory, then there is no good option for you.
The whole situation we have is bad, if you want more freedom you will have to sacrifice some convenience.