@okias I guess the CoC thing puts power into somebody's hands, and that power can be used in good ways but it can also be abused. Having a CoC and trying to enforce it can be good, but it can also be bad, depending on how it's done.

Anyway, I guess part of this had to do with that when we say something, what really matters is not what we meant but how it lands on the receiving side. Like with the pronnounds thing, you may not care but it could matter much more to the person you talk to.