@The_Quantum_Alpha@mstdn.social, I might sound like a dick, but you are not obligated to make an expensive wedding if that's gonna cripple you financially, and even it isn't, spending less on the wedding would save you and your spouse money for other necessities and/or vacations. After all, a wedding is supposed to mark a happy day of your life and set a foundation to your marriage: don't let it have negative effects on your future life.