sex discussion
+bonifartius 𒂼𒄄
sex discussion
@bonifartius @kaia
They aren't two years into their married life and just want to let each other get some sleep — if they aren't attracted to each other sexually at this stage, chances are letting each other get some sleep would be all they would be doing to each other in their married life.
This might work for some too — there are couples who live happily together for decades and never have sex, but they are certainly not in the majority.
@bonifartius
> you just don't have to follow through?
Why?
> you will likely be able to do so years later
Most married couples manage even without taking such tests early on 😅
"Not having sex" isn't something valuable in its own right, you aren't getting any bonus points for that — you're just depriving yourself (and presumably the other party too) of some fun and for a rather spurious reason 🤷
@bonifartius
The reasons why a girl might not want to get intimate in such a situation can be vastly different, ranging from the ones which make ending the relationship immediately a good idea to just not thinking straight, e.g. if the girl thinks that this young man is only interested in having sex, but wants to be more than that for him — that is lack of trust. Sleeping next to the one you do not trust isn't a great idea — it would make her uncomfortable anyway.
@bonifartius
Same for the young man who is physically attracted to her, but can't because "reasons". Neither of that can help them build trust — telling him about it upfront and sleeping in different beds is a much better course of action here.
Making things more complicated is not a recipe for healthy relationship, right the opposite — sure way to become a victim of someone manipulative who would have no moral dilemmas.
@kaia