When I tell parents that secretly spying on their kids' internet activities is not a great look, they ask me "Well, what SHOULD I do?"
There is no all-purpose parenting answer, but this report from Malwarebytes outlines many of the key considerations: https://www.malwarebytes.com/resources/attachments/parenting-and-growing-up-online-10-2022.pdf
@evacide I have told people to stop putting spyware on their kids devices for years and it always ends so badly. They never listen to me.