Does anyone have any good advice on how to deal with microaggressions? In the moment, I usually have no idea what to do.
@alchemistsstudio I had some success with pretending not to notice.
@ekg I often default to that, but feel bad after.
@alchemistsstudio I didn't know I was doing it for the longest time, because I didn't notice it. When I started to notice it I continued; as I knew it didn't cause to much problems.
I have slowly moved to acknowledge, and disregard:
"I know you're angry, and I don't know how to help you"
@alchemistsstudio yeah I am definitely glad when I can do it.
But as you are suggesting that is not the common outcome.
Unfortunately people expressing microaggression correlate well with people I wouldn't want to challenge unnecessarily.
@ekg That's unfortunate, but I can definitely see that correlation being a thing. Particularly if it is someone in a position of authority at work or something similar.
@alchemistsstudio I am afraid to say it was my dad. I have moved out, and he has learnt to do better.
@ekg I'm sorry to hear that was the case and glad he has learned and you have some space. 💙
@ekg I'm glad you're able to acknowledge it and disregard it. In some moments that is definitely the best action (and I'd add find a way to get away from the situation, if possible).