What is masculinity actually meant to be though? I think we have done some good work (which must continue!,) to gain understanding of what it should NOT be... but what SHOULD it be? Any opinions? (preferably from men/masc people, non-men welcome too). Asking *As A Men*.

@restioson I've been to men's retreats and topic of what it means to be a man and what "masculinity" is are both very tough and our culture provides very little helpful guidance. One thing is clear: the muscle bound ignoramus who crushes the enemy and gets the girl is not masculinity. Protecting one's loved ones is masculine. Speaking the truth and fighting for it is masculine.

@restioson Being honourable is masculine. Stepping aside and *not* winning the day when that is the right thing to do is masculine.