Spending time this morning reading about some decisions being made on various instances regarding hosting and responsibilities and the impact on marginalized communities.
The first thing is that we should probably NOT automatically federate when instances are set up. It's a bad design choice that enables harassment. We've already seen this happen where one off servers and automatic federation lead to harassment campaigns (apologies for not having the link to last week's thread ATM)
Second, as others have noted, we need to calibrate our expectations on how quickly admins respond. Largely speaking the #Fediverse is run and managed by volunteers; they have other things to do with their time.
Because of this we should acknowledge that some instances will have a "ban first" approach and that's ok. That is admins focusing on protecting their users since they can't count on admins from another server reacting quickly.
We would be repeating the mistakes of big social media if we did not continue to iterate listening to the voices from marginalized communities. Fortunately we have every incentive to actually listen to them: the difference in the #fediverse is the the structural ability to center on people instead of around profits.